How to Write a Dating Profile for a Man Over 40
If you're looking for love online, you're competing against 323.9 million other dating app users.
But there are ways to stand out from the crowd even if you are over 40 —and one of those ways is to write a profile that gets results.
- According to a survey, 54 percent of American online daters claim relationships from such platforms are just as successful as in-person meetings.
- Out of these users, 76 percent of women and 83 percent of men have met in person with someone they corresponded with online. Also, almost half of these users said it was somewhat easy to find matches who shared their hobbies or interests.
Now, that’s a promising start. Of course, we’re unsure how many made it to matrimony, but if you find yourself as a bachelor past 40 uncertain of how to even begin crafting an online profile, look no further!
How to Write a Dating Profile That Works
The opening profile is your most important marketing tool. You've got seconds to make a good impression. Make sure your username stands out. Don't include too many words; keep it short and sweet. Include a photo. Add some text about why you like dogs.
Be careful if you write a profile headline that asks a complete unknown to be perpetually amused. People might think you're being sarcastic, and they'll never bother reading your profile.
1. Use Your Real Name Since You Are Over 40
Sounds idiot-proof, right? Or the thought of using a fake name never even crossed your mind.
Well, let’s just say such profiles using fake names are not uncommon. Some love their privacy too and resort to using an alias. While that’s not entirely dishonest either, being open and transparent from the get-go does set a different tone, especially when you are already over 40.
So ask yourself, what kind of person do you desire in your life? If it’s a girl who’s honest, transparent, and open with you, you have to first pave the way.
2. Select Recent Photos
Use recent photos to give people an accurate depiction of how you look.
One might argue dating apps rely too heavily on physical attraction, and you might be right. But if you want to play the game, well, such is reality.
It’s naturally tempting to use old photos where you’re younger, have a head full of hair, and the body of a Greek God. But it defeats the purpose of lying to someone and showing up 20 pounds heavier than how you look in the photos. Even if you score a date, where would that lead? It’s likely the girl would be unsure of how to react if there is deception involved from the beginning.
The ultimate goal is really to get your love for life.
Countless dating profiles are faceless, of course. Those individuals have pictures instead of their cars or their super rad motorbikes.
As comfortable as it is not putting yourself out there, that’s not recommended because the whole idea is to introduce yourself to others. Remember, there are also tons of scammers out there, so people are naturally cautious.
The more real your profile comes across, the better the odds are of getting more matches.
3. Display your Hobbies
When you are over your 40s, it is great to find someone with the same interests. Throw some photos of your hobbies and anything interesting that stands out in your life, or is important to you, in the mix of photos. It works as an ice-breaker, especially if the other party shares your hobby e.g. golf or skydiving.
4. Be Upfront About What You Want
As they say, honesty’s the best policy.
A strong bio – and an honest one – will attract the right crowd.
Note: The strategy employed is not to get you laid or the highest number of matches, as appealing as both those thoughts are. The goal here is to get you a partner who is a vibrational match, one whom you’d feel a deep connection with. In order to do that, honesty will inevitably mean a few matches lesser, and that’s okay. We want quality over quantity.
So, what is your current situation? Are you a single father? Divorced with no kids? What are your hobbies? What are your dealbreakers?
You don’t have to flood the bio. Just a few brief lines will do.
5. Show A Sense of Humour
While we’re on the note of crafting a bio, pepper it with some sense of humor. This will really help you stand out from the crowd.
For example: “Looking for a genuine connection, a lady to spoil and quit the app together. Single dad to 2 beautiful kids, and 1 very temperamental pet. Swipe right if you’d love to be added to my daily meme subscription list, lol!”
It doesn’t have to be politically correct. Expect your humor to divide the room, even, and that’s okay. You want someone who appreciates you for you.
Check your grammar
Finally, please, do spellcheck. Above all else, have fun! Dating can be enjoyable if you allow it to be!
This is after all the first time you’d be out dating in a decade or two, especially if you’re fresh out of a divorce. Expose yourself to more people and experiences during this period – It’s one of the best ways to learn more about the new you.
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Deborah Choo loves discussing relationships, platonic or not, as that remains at the heart of human existence. She draws upon learnings from couples’ counselling, and continues to celebrate an incredible journey of growth.